Friday, October 16, 2009

now what?

What do you do when you lose the love of your life?

I don't know what to do.

I continue in a haze of grief each day. Disbelief, shock, complete sadness.

Empty. Hurt. A black hole in the center of my chest.

I don't know what to do.

5 lovely bits o' feedback.:

Petunia Face said...

I think you're doing just what you're supposed to be doing. Which is nothing and everything, just breathing and mourning. Hang in there :)

A reader said...

What do you do? You just keep breathing. You just keep surrounding yourself with people who are so full of love for you. You let them love you. You love them back. You don't give up on love. You love yourself. You realize you have lost part of yourself, and will never be the same... but that you will be surprised and amazed by the person you turn out to be once it's all over. At the strength you find along the way. You will be loved again, the way you deserve to be loved.

krista said...

i wish i could type out words right now that would wrap up the pain for you and make it go away, at least for a day or two. but i don't. all i know, from pain and loss, is that you keep breathing, one breath at a time and lather, rinse, repeat.

Ann Amicucci said...


I know that no one can know exactly what you're going through, but you have to keep reminding yourself that THERE IS HOPE. With each day, you're going to get stronger. With each day, this is going to feel (in tiny, tiny, incremental steps) easier. I know that doesn't seem possible now, but it's true.

I can't know what you're going through, but I've been through a similar situation in the last year. For what it's worth, let me share this: the time will come (I promise!!) when you will be able to go through your day without always having *that* in the back of your mind. When you will be able to focus more on yourself and less on the past. For now, keep Petunia Face's words in mind: breathe! :)


ADayInTheLife said...

My wish for you is to heal with strength, and with the knowledge that this is a stepping stone on your journey.